I thought I was up to this... I'm not

[Moselle]

I am so grateful to all of you - Crumbling, 123Phoebe, Dreamflyer99, startrekuser, Waverider, formflier. Thank you for your comments, support and advice! It meant the world to me.    

As Formflier says, I feel like Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. I stood in the fire and did not burn. It's a powerful way to start 2015 and I am grateful for this experience.  They threw everything at me, everything a BPD family could throw,  and I smiled in return. Devaluation,  humiliation,  exclusion,  undemining,  isolation, love/hate. It speaks volumes about them actually and their little world.

It's not my world. Not any more.

I realised that I can stand in the midst of 15 or so of them and maintain my integrity. It makes my wife on her own, a much easier proposition. If you can make it in New York, you can make it anywhere right?  

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[flowerpath]

As Formflier says, I feel like Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. I stood in the fire and did not burn. It's a powerful way to start 2015 and I am grateful for this experience.  They threw everything at me, everything a BPD family could throw,  and I smiled in return.

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I realised that I can stand in the midst of 15 or so of them and maintain my integrity.

   I love this!  Good for you, Moselle!

[DreamFlyer99]

I am so grateful to all of you - Crumbling, 123Phoebe, Dreamflyer99, startrekuser, Waverider, formflier. Thank you for your comments, support and advice! It meant the world to me.    

As Formflier says, I feel like Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. I stood in the fire and did not burn. It's a powerful way to start 2015 and I am grateful for this experience.  They threw everything at me, everything a BPD family could throw,  and I smiled in return. Devaluation,  humiliation,  exclusion,  undemining,  isolation, love/hate. It speaks volumes about them actually and their little world.



It's not my world. Not any more.

I realised that I can stand in the midst of 15 or so of them and maintain my integrity. It makes my wife on her own, a much easier proposition. If you can make it in New York, you can make it anywhere right?  

But it speaks even more about you--the fact that you are certain enough in who you are to not be swayed or overly affected by their attacking behaviors! THAT IS HUGE!

[waverider]

Feels good when the intimidation simply starts to fall wide, it almost seems pathetic.