Could your ex / current / current hold their liquor?

[Depression = 72% of members]

Curious my ex BPD female P could drink two sailors under the table also my SD told me the other day she had drunk a litre of canadian club she weighs all of 50 kg 110 lbs one night she is also ( my SD a completely wild drunk ) do people have similar expieriences

[SlyQQ]

Curious my ex BPD female P could drink two sailors under the table also my SD told me the other day she had drunk a litre of canadian club she weighs all of 50 kg 110 lbs one night she is also ( my SD a completely wild drunk ) do people have similar expieriences

[Mr.Downtrodden]

Yep.

She could drain a case of beer in a week. Quite amazing, actually.

[GlitterBug]

Yep - Reeking of Gin at 3 o'clock in the afternoon when she was supposed to collect her child from school.

Unable to get through a weekend without drinking heavily.

If left to her own devices for any length of time, it was virtually guaranteed she would drink until thoroughly intoxicated.

Once sufficiently intoxicated, she would contact numerous 'male friends' at all hours of the night until someone obliged and came round to satisfy her 'needs'.

Typical signs of dysregulation and very difficult to witness.

[clydegriffith]

The BPDx didn't really drink much. It's funny because when i tell people all the crazy stories of the stuff she pulled, the first thing they ask is if she had a drug or alcohol problem. She didn't. Just full blown BPD.

[cehlers55]

my BPD ex was a light weight. Then she more or less stopped drinking altogether. I know some of it was to isolate from me from my friends who wanted us to have a normal night out on a couples date. If she was in the right circumstances with the people that were "on her team" as she liked to call it, she would stay out and drink all night (although easily intoxicated, she was actually a really fun time when having a few drinks with "her team"

... .However, she LOVED to smoke pot (easy to get in CA). I watched a show the other night and apparently the THC in pot affects the frontal lobe of the brain. The frontal lobe is the part which helps control irrational responses to emotions. Thus i think the pot was a 'help' to her out of control responses to normal situations... .I could be full of baloney though, this is all way above my pay grade.

[Perdita]

He could never hold his liquor, but fortunately didn't drink much.  Lately, he has been drinking a whole lot more.  He sure could hold his weed like a rasta though.

[SlyQQ]

Weed increases oxytocin ( shown to be low in BPD s ) levels and reduces vassopressin ( stress hormone ) if it wasnt for the psychotic side effects it could even help

[Perdita]

Weed increases oxytocin ( shown to be low in BPD s )  levels and reduces vassopressin ( stress hormone ) if it wasnt for the psychotic side effects it could even help

It probably can be helpful in some cases.  He has been smoking on average 7 spliffs a day though for over a decade.  Whatever beneficial effects it once had it is now gone.  If anything I think it is making him more anxious and is working against his anxiety and anti-depressant medication.

[enlighten me]

Weed increases oxytocin ( shown to be low in BPD s )  levels and reduces

vassopressin ( stress hormone ) if it wasnt for the psychotic side effects

it could even help

I would have thought vassopressin would be low in pwBPD due to a smaller hyperthalamus where vassopressin and oxytocin are created. Ivassopressin is a diurectic which controls the fluid levels in the body. I did notice that both my exs hydrated a lot. I know its good to hydrate but they did it a lot more than normal which led me to believe their vassopresin levels where reduced.

[Blimblam]

My first ex an upwBPD could drink and she would get out of control drunk. She had a drug problem in general after me she pretty much got Ito hard drugs and only dated drug dealers. 

The last ex grew up with addict parents so she decided she didn't want to be like them but that girl can smoke weed though like it ain't no thing. I have seen her take dab after dab like it's nothing. A little ganja princess that one. Truth be told the weed helps her a lot.

[parisian]

Alcohol addiction (or other addictions) is one of the indicators. They drink of course to self-soothe.  Mine drank socially, regularly - at least 3-4 times per week, and then also at home by herself.

Mine was charmy, witty, outgoing and a completely different person when she drank BUT only in the company of her group of long-time enablers. It was that person I thought I had 'known' for ten years, and fell in love with.

I saw an awful other side of her when she drank without that group. I saw the angry, frightened side, and so did my friends, on several occasions - they copped her indignant, aggressive arguing when they were actually just agreeing with her. I think she drank in social settings where she didn't know people to cope with nervousness, but it always turned her into a horrible person. I was always on eggshells about how she would behave in those situations.

Whilst I feel bad about repeating this, mine also vomited and defacated in the bed on account of being so drunk one night. That was not very pleasant. I've never been with someone who drank so much that they got themselves into such a state as that. Of course part of the problem was in me not drawing a strong boundary about that and letting her know. I don't think she was aware that is what happened. She also almost got a sexual harassment charge, on account of drunkenly throwing herself at a work colleague during a work social function.

I read in some research, that DBT therapy does not really work unless they get off alcohol. Mine won't get sober because to do so would mean changing her friendship group and doing something other than drinking three nights socially a week. That will never happen.