Good morning members:
Just read a random article about marriage and a line struck a chord with me.
“It just seems obvious that people would be older and wiser, or learn from the mistakes of a failed first marriage and do better next time around. But that’s like saying if you lose a football game you’ll win the next one. You will —but only if you learn some new plays before you go back on the field.”
It just occurred to me that if I put myself in the mindset of a sports team,when we lose a game, we never blame the other team for our lost. What do we do? We look into ourselves and see how we can improve!
The other team might have cheated, played dirty or whatever. We might have tried our best as well, but it doesn't mean we are a bad team, just that we have to know how to adjust ourselves in these situations, expect the "expected" and not let ourselves ruin a good game. We might meet these type of people again, we might meet our ex again, sometimes you just can't avoid it, but we CAN improve ourselves through experiences.
Btw, I'm not talking about getting back with our ex spouses, that's crazy, but rather how do we move forward with a healthy mindset instead of dwelling on the fact of how crazy our BPD exes are and how they ruined our "game", stay bitter and all that.
End of rambling, just want to share my thoughts. I might relapse later, but for now, it brightens up my mood.
*Excuse me if my grammar is not up to par, English is not my first language.
