I've been desperately searching for an answer that would explain all the nonsense and drama my husband has put me through. I'm very technically-minded and thought needed the answ and, so I could start fixing the problems. Now, I'm shocked to be so sure it's BPD. I feel stuck now; don't have a good plan for my future.
I'm hoping to gain insight and strength from this site. Thanks, in advance.
Earlwind, I was married for 10 years before I found out. I went to a number of therapists and was even in marriage counseling for 3+ years and none of them named BPD. In fact, I have since been back to the marriage therapist for 1-1 "debriefing" and she still doesn't get it.
It has been about 3 months since I have been visiting this site and still feel like I get daily insights as I rewind the years with my newfound knowledge.
This may sound passive, but spend time here reading and posting. As I have read other stories/posts I have had many moments of relief with identification, sadness that it all went on for so long and spiraled so far out of control, anger that it has happened, depression not knowing what to do and helplessness to change her.
Your plans for the future are likely to include gaining a knowledge of yourself. What you do with this knowledge will begin to shape the answer to your question about your future.
Joe