Turning a corner

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hi Everyone,

I think I've turned a corner today. It's two little things but they are massively significant. The first is that I checked one of my email accounts without even wondering if my BPDxbf had sent me an email, let alone wanting one. I just checked it out of habit. The second is that I sat in a cafe with my journal and only occasionally scanned buses and the town centre for possible sightings of my ex. In the past, the scanning has been constant and the yearning powerful. I am beginning to feel grateful that we are no longer together. I am beginning to feel that there is hope of a better future. I'm even feeling that I want to spend time processing my core issues without being in a relationship and beginning to think I am capable of surviving without one and may even thrive without one. I may be crying again tomorrow, but today has been a real glimpse of good things to come.

Love Lifewriter

[Lifewriter16]

Hi Everyone,

I think I've turned a corner today. It's two little things but they are massively significant. The first is that I checked one of my email accounts without even wondering if my BPDxbf had sent me an email, let alone wanting one. I just checked it out of habit. The second is that I sat in a cafe with my journal and only occasionally scanned buses and the town centre for possible sightings of my ex. In the past, the scanning has been constant and the yearning powerful. I am beginning to feel grateful that we are no longer together. I am beginning to feel that there is hope of a better future. I'm even feeling that I want to spend time processing my core issues without being in a relationship and beginning to think I am capable of surviving without one and may even thrive without one. I may be crying again tomorrow, but today has been a real glimpse of good things to come.

Love Lifewriter

[Hopeful83]

Hi Everyone,

I think I've turned a corner today. It's two little things but they are massively significant. The first is that I checked one of my email accounts without even wondering if my BPDxbf had sent me an email, let alone wanting one. I just checked it out of habit. The second is that I sat in a cafe with my journal and only occasionally scanned buses and the town centre for possible sightings of my ex. In the past, the scanning has been constant and the yearning powerful. I am beginning to feel grateful that we are no longer together. I am beginning to feel that there is hope of a better future. I'm even feeling that I want to spend time processing my core issues without being in a relationship and beginning to think I am capable of surviving without one and may even thrive without one. I may be crying again tomorrow, but today has been a real glimpse of good things to come.

Love Lifewriter

Hey Lifewriter 

I've read a few of your posts on here and I just wanted to say you sound like such a lovely, thoughtful person, and it's so great to read that you're doing better. All progress is progress, and it sounds like you're heading in the right direction.

It feels fantastic when we have these little victories, doesn't it? Four months in and I'm finally starting to have some of my own.

Hopeful

[focus]

The small victories are to be celebrated. It's the little things added togeather that creates the bigger picture.

So it's good you take notice and take pride in the success.

This is a little teaser of things to come.

[Beach_Babe]

That is wonderful news!

[joeramabeme]

 

Glad to hear.  Always enjoy reading your posts.

[JohnnyShoes]

 

[Mutt]

Hi Everyone,

I think I've turned a corner today. It's two little things but they are massively significant. The first is that I checked one of my email accounts without even wondering if my BPDxbf had sent me an email, let alone wanting one. I just checked it out of habit. The second is that I sat in a cafe with my journal and only occasionally scanned buses and the town centre for possible sightings of my ex. In the past, the scanning has been constant and the yearning powerful. I am beginning to feel grateful that we are no longer together. I am beginning to feel that there is hope of a better future. I'm even feeling that I want to spend time processing my core issues without being in a relationship and beginning to think I am capable of surviving without one and may even thrive without one. I may be crying again tomorrow, but today has been a real glimpse of good things to come.

Love Lifewriter

You're doing beautifully 

[myself]

Today it may be two steps forward, one step back.

Tomorrow three steps forward, maybe one step back.

Then more and more steps forward and perhaps none back.

This is good to hear. Keep going. They're your moves to make.

It makes a lot of sense to process who and where you are.

Then find a relationship/someone to share with, when you're more ready.