Helpless and overwhelmed

[livebetter]

Our lives stopped in their tracks from where they were when our 16 year old daughter was found to be cutting and soon after hospitalized with suicidal ideations. Of course there are times and situations leading up to this that has been difficult but now every day is a struggle for all of us how to handle her emotional unstable mood and my guilt, fear, loss of direction and personal struggle with depression and worthlessness. Complete fear of the BPD diagnosis (she does not have it yet but PTSD and depression with Anxiety) and the life or lack of normal life this diagnosis would mean for her and my withdrawal from friends and social situations and anger and shame and not knowing how to help her has my mind in a constant turmoil.

As pathetic as it sounds, this is not what I pictured my life to be…….

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[BB_YogaGirl]

My daughter is 17. I posted for the for time several weeks ago, entitled "introduction" but with a typo so it says "Introductuon".

I understand how you feel, and it is what drove me to find support. There are no local support groups where I live, so I set out on a Google search and found this. Admittedly, I haven't spent time reading anything beyond what people like us are writing. It gives me comfort to know I'm not on an island. I'm sure you must be in search of the same. I've isolated myself from everyone because they don't understand what I'm experiencing on a daily roller coaster. This includes my husband of 4 years. I cannot relate to any e about normal daily things because I'm consumed with worry/doubt/fear over her instability and imminent adulthood. Therapy and hospitalization and supplements and tuition have taken a toll financially as well. She is diagnosed with MDD and antic disorder, her therapist feels that she is BPD but psych will not label as such yet. Everything I've read ("Walking on Eggshells" or something like that is an excellent book for you.) indicates BPD.

Definitely not the life I pictured either.

[BB_YogaGirl]

I need to do a better job of proofreading. Please forgive my typos and auto correct errors above and I hope you were able to translate. I hope you are finding some peace and comfort on this site, as I am.

[Moselle]

Life better.  So sorry to hear of your difficulties. It must be really hard to face these truths. Well done with your honesty.

What are your next steps to help your daughter?

Does she know you love her?

[sparkles mom]

Like you, our daughter is 16.  I hate that I actually feel like I'm getting my life back because she is living in a children's shelter awaiting transfer to RTC.  She's in denial that she has issues but does not want to live with us.  She wants us to let her live with her aunt and uncle, but they allow and enable her behaviors.  I'm tired of fighting, gaining no ground, getting nowhere for her and for us.  Complicating everything is her eating disorder, two facilities have already denied her.