Had to block from fb tonight

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Well. Tonight my ex of five weeks plus posted four tribute messages. Each with pictures of her, her two children (who she doesn't have custody of or even live in same state as), coworkers,other family and "friends".  She said on the first tribute that the past few years have been really tough on her. And how she was eternally grateful for all of these people in her life who helped her to weather the storm. Many of the pictures of things her and I did throughout the past two years.  Florida which i paid for, Pennsylvania which I paid for, and other places with her children etc.

She makes it sound like she is a victim

Of abuse or beating or an alcoholic or someone who betrayed her.  When the reality is she had great times at all of these things.

I was guilty of not listening enough sometimes, or paying her 100 percent attention, or not always agreeing with her on things, or maybe not validating her enough, or we did have about four overly emotional arguments over time I regret.  Or when she moved out I did allow my anger to call her a loser and bad mother .  It was my emotions and hurt and anger.

I don't know so much it was totally directed at me. Or was it to gain sympathy. Attention. Play the victim. Etc

It just made me sick and I finally had no choice but to block her.

I still have her refrigerator In my garage. And found a few winter coats.  If she reaches out for either I'm tempted to not ever respond.  But I know that's wrong

[Scopikaz]

Well. Tonight my ex of five weeks plus posted four tribute messages. Each with pictures of her, her two children (who she doesn't have custody of or even live in same state as), coworkers,other family and "friends".  She said on the first tribute that the past few years have been really tough on her. And how she was eternally grateful for all of these people in her life who helped her to weather the storm. Many of the pictures of things her and I did throughout the past two years.  Florida which i paid for, Pennsylvania which I paid for, and other places with her children etc.

She makes it sound like she is a victim

Of abuse or beating or an alcoholic or someone who betrayed her.  When the reality is she had great times at all of these things.

I was guilty of not listening enough sometimes, or paying her 100 percent attention, or not always agreeing with her on things, or maybe not validating her enough, or we did have about four overly emotional arguments over time I regret.  Or when she moved out I did allow my anger to call her a loser and bad mother .  It was my emotions and hurt and anger.

I don't know so much it was totally directed at me. Or was it to gain sympathy. Attention. Play the victim. Etc

It just made me sick and I finally had no choice but to block her.

I still have her refrigerator In my garage. And found a few winter coats.  If she reaches out for either I'm tempted to not ever respond.  But I know that's wrong

[SoSoSoTired]

I'm sorry this is happening to you.  It's angering when BPDs present themselves as being a victim.

Keep her blocked.  She is trolling for enablers to feel sorry for her and provide her with "victim supply".

[Msjules]

This has started for us, as well. Yesterday the posts started that belittle what we had. I know not to take it personally, but it still stings. When we were good, we were amazing. To hear him insinuate it wasn't bothers me. Also, the posts about finding the perfect partner and all that, as if his last one wasnt. But, I don't respond, I shake my head and move on. I have started "operation cleanout" and social media is on that list, I'm just not there yet.