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burritoman
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January 02, 2016, 03:29:35 PM »
Ugh... .so, 2 months to the day of me going NC and I made a stupid mistake. I posted a stupid photo to my friend's Facebook wall. I was tagging him in it and HER name popped up right under HIS, but my thumb accidentally hit her name instead. I freaked out and fixed it right away. If she still has push notifications active on her phone she more than likely got some sort of notice for it.
I know, this is a stupid and probably insignificant accident, but I still feel like a bit of a jackass over it.
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Oh stupid social media!
Try not to worry about it? There's nothing you can do, as you know. NC is for you, right? To get your mind free. Your mind is still free.
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Quote from: VitaminC on January 02, 2016, 03:33:42 PM
Oh stupid social media!
Try not to worry about it? There's nothing you can do, as you know. NC is for you, right? To get your mind free. Your mind is still free.
Tell me about it! I was in a happy mood and thought it was funny, then OOPS! Why didn't I wait to do it on my computer instead of my phone? Oh well.
And yes, NC is for ME. Breaking NC this way is much better than me breaking down and giving her a call, right? Still funny how it had to happen literally 8 weeks to the day!
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I'm sorry to hear you made that unintentional mistake when you are so dedicated but I need to ask a question if you don't mind? Why do you keep her as a FB friend? I ask because I am struggling with that now. After many years I am finally standing firm with how I am treated, but I recently reactivated my FB and she is still on there. I was hoping I would be deleted, but deep down knew she wouldn't do it. I would have to. And yet I feel like that is a dramatic move on my part, which will bring it to the attention of all our mutual friends and then the questions will begin. (and I definitely don't want.) We are both known as best friends, nothing else. I have struggled with what to do since I have returned. Right now I have gone from restricting her, to unfollowing her, I untagged myself in a pic she had up of us, but I haven't looked at her page once. That's the only good thing going for me.
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I blocked my ex on FB. It was really hard. I mean, it felt like I had physically hit him when I did it. But it was the right thing to do. It saves me having to be strong and not look at his page, and it sent a clear message to him that this time the NC was for real. I also feared mutual friends would notice and ask questions, but none of them have. I'd guess some haven't noticed and others, knowing him, have guessed what's up and are leaving it alone. Every case is different, but blocking has worked for me.
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I'm still friends with her on FB because unfortunately she left a big tie to me, and at the moment I'm not mentally ready to deal with whatever she throws at me regarding it. I'm dealing with it on my own until I can get to that head space. As much as it hurts, I'm getting closer and closer to cutting her out entirely.
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That's how I feel as well. So many mutual friends, so many questions, she's so talented in telling lies. Beyond frustrating.
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