Feeling robbed by my dead BPD sister tonight

[Our abuse recovery guide]

Not sure if I've already been over this but after she died her laptop became mine and I learned with liked many of the same movies and music.

I feel robbed knowing that she never shared this side of herself with me.

What the heck?

We could have enjoyed talking about things we had in common.

[ropend]

Not sure if I've already been over this but after she died her laptop became mine and I learned with liked many of the same movies and music.

I feel robbed knowing that she never shared this side of herself with me.

What the heck?

We could have enjoyed talking about things we had in common.

[Turkish]

Maybe she did, but suffered from too much shame (self-hatred) or was too tortured by her illness to talk about it. I'm sorry ropend... .this must be extremely triggering.

[pessim-optimist]

I'm so sorry too, ropend... .the thing is, you were definitely 'robbed' and so was your sister... .it was a no-win deal.  :'(

[HappyChappy]

I feel robbed knowing that she never shared this side of herself with me.

What the heck?

We could have enjoyed talking about things we had in common.

Ropend, I do feel for you. A terrible trigger and a tragic loss. But maybe see it as flattery. We tend to copy or mimic what impresses us. So maybe this was her way of flattering you ? Her way of hugging you goodbye ? There are grief councillors (available on the NHS for example).  But for what’s its worth, your thoughts and wishes sound normal, understandable. Don’t suffer alone. Big hug from me.