HELP

[climbthewalls]

my boyfriend and i have a long history and I wonder why he tries to make me jealous by telling me an ex has called or texted. I want to know the purpose behind it and what my reaction should be so that he stops.

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[JQ]

Hello Martha,

I see this is your first post so Welcome to the group.    I sympathize why you're here and glad you found us. I would recommend reading some ref: to the right------>

And some other references to the top of the site as well to start to learn about the complex world of BPD.

Can you give us  little but more information ... .has be been diagnosed or do you suspect BPD? How long have you been together as your references a history? What else can you tell us about your history? Anything like this before or other things that might have happen ... .BPD is a very serious mental / behavioral illness and can't be summed up into one or two paragraphs.

With that being said, he's trying to devalue you by telling that he's wanted by others. It's an attempt to lower your self esteem so that you don't want to leave him ... .As I said the BPD world is a very complex and confusing world that even the best therapist & Ph.d's have trouble with.  My exBPDgf did it ALL the time.  It's part of another diagnoses of Narcissist behavior, sometime someone with BPD can also have other behavioral or mental illness to complicate the situation and relationship.