GAME ON...

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Well I just couldn't take it anymore. BPDw making money finally and refusing to contribute and telling her daughter in front of me that I am not her parent and she does not have to listen to me were the straws that broke the camels back. Not that it comes as a surprise, but just a sad final acceptance that this woman has used me. Took advantage of my love and support, financial and otherwise, in true NPD/BPD style. She actually told me that she does not have to give me any money from her paycheck and can live "rent free' because she is my wife.

Nightmare. This is going to get ugly.

I was told to wait a few months for strategic reasons but I guess there is no point. I successfully tipped my hand tonight although I did not say " I WANT A DIVORCE". In a simple text to her ( she gets mad when I ask her directly) I wanted to know if she was going to be paying her car payment and insurance like she said she would. In so many words she told me to F off. So I took that as a NO.

She needs to get out of my house. Its mine. Separate property. Problem is under the law she doesn't have to until the matter is adjudicated or we agree on a $$$.

Her 12 year old daughter gets to witness our arguments on a regular basis thanks to her Mom not "hiding" her disgust of me. Not a good place for a kid. You'd think as a MOM you wouldn't want to subject your kid to this. She takes her along for the ride.

If only I get get her mad enough to lay a hand on me, then I could get a kick out order.

It doesn't have to be, for two RATIONAL adults, but to my lovely BPDw this is out and out WAR. I am scared of what she will accuse me of ( she has threatened all kinds of false charges) and really want to leave my own house

but my attorney says that if I should hold down my fort.

I can see now why her ex husband left. Actually he didn't leave, he ESCAPED.

I see her as such a hideously vile and abusive women and I just can't believe I once thought of her as the love of my life.

I call myself a Christian ( and so does she blasphemously enough) but I am feeling like I hate her.

How am I going to get through this having to live with her? Any suggestions?

Thanks!

Truth be told... .I am afraid of her.  She is so vicious. She might say or do anything to get what she wants.

[michel71]

Well I just couldn't take it anymore. BPDw making money finally and refusing to contribute and telling her daughter in front of me that I am not her parent and she does not have to listen to me were the straws that broke the camels back. Not that it comes as a surprise, but just a sad final acceptance that this woman has used me. Took advantage of my love and support, financial and otherwise, in true NPD/BPD style. She actually told me that she does not have to give me any money from her paycheck and can live "rent free' because she is my wife.

Nightmare. This is going to get ugly.

I was told to wait a few months for strategic reasons but I guess there is no point. I successfully tipped my hand tonight although I did not say " I WANT A DIVORCE". In a simple text to her ( she gets mad when I ask her directly) I wanted to know if she was going to be paying her car payment and insurance like she said she would. In so many words she told me to F off. So I took that as a NO.

She needs to get out of my house. Its mine. Separate property. Problem is under the law she doesn't have to until the matter is adjudicated or we agree on a $$$.

Her 12 year old daughter gets to witness our arguments on a regular basis thanks to her Mom not "hiding" her disgust of me. Not a good place for a kid. You'd think as a MOM you wouldn't want to subject your kid to this. She takes her along for the ride.

If only I get get her mad enough to lay a hand on me, then I could get a kick out order.

It doesn't have to be, for two RATIONAL adults, but to my lovely BPDw this is out and out WAR. I am scared of what she will accuse me of ( she has threatened all kinds of false charges) and really want to leave my own house

but my attorney says that if I should hold down my fort.

I can see now why her ex husband left. Actually he didn't leave, he ESCAPED.

I see her as such a hideously vile and abusive women and I just can't believe I once thought of her as the love of my life.

I call myself a Christian ( and so does she blasphemously enough) but I am feeling like I hate her.

How am I going to get through this having to live with her? Any suggestions?

Thanks!

Truth be told... .I am afraid of her.  She is so vicious. She might say or do anything to get what she wants.