My ex BPD BF broke up in Sept. Will be a year ago. One of the most hurtful events I recalled was sitting out in his back yard, with two of his best friends... .
My gut had already warned me something was very off, I suspected he had taken another woman to a concert I was unable to attend due to work.
He had adamantly denied, before when I asked, saying he had gone with these two guy friends who were present with us. ( he had forwarned them if I asked to cover for him)
So I did ... Out of the blue, ask them " so how were the stones? What was their last song? Etc... ,
I felt the " uncomfortable feelings being an empath myself., and also noticed the vagueness in their voices and lack of eye contact.
From the corner of my eye, I saw my BF at the time, smirk and smile to himself.
I'll never forget that moment... , ever... .
I wanted to thro up. Sure enuff it was validated... He lied and took another. Thru FB pictures he forgot to delete.
Now after all these mos... His best friend... And one that lied for him... wanted to connect on Social media ... I thought how strange that was... .and at first didn't respond. About a week later, I sent the friend a " nice to connect with you message professionally"
I firmly believe it was the words of my ex, ( sounded like him not the friend) asking how I was.
Immediately, I felt I was soaking to ex... and very nicely warned him not to allow EX to use him... As a go between... and that I knew ex had put him in a bad situation to lie to me before.
To get my point across, I also added... There as no way I wanted contact with ex again in a nice way... ( still pretending I was speaking to his friend) and he found what was a hurtful to do me... Quite funny...
I ended politely wishing him the best.
It amaZes me after all this time... It still hurts... .
What re chances I won't get another charm from him ? He is blocked from contacting me directly.
Thank you!
