Typical push/pull or something else? Help

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Earlier this evening, there was a knock at my door.  I went an opened. I thought I knew who it was.  To my surprise and what a relief when I saw my neighbor at the door.  She was holding a package that had been delivered to my door earlier today, when I was out.  As I was closing my door, I heard someone call out my name.  Frankly, my neighbors and I aren't on first name basis, per se, so I was taken aback for a bit.  The door was slightly cracked open, when looked out.  There she was. Looking like a sweet angel (in disguise).  I let her in.

She's all smiles. I am not.  It was awkward.  For a few seconds no one said anything.  She gazed at me with a smile, and I gaze at her looking for thoughts.

She said what? I said, what what? Then her posture and facial expression changed as she handed me a small bag.  I asked what was in there.  She said look in it.  Gave me a 4 second hug, then left out the door.

It was a bottle of perfume, a piece of paper where she wrote the words "dinner invitation.  My treat", and a 5 page hand written letter telling me how she currently feels about all that transpired between us.

The title of the letter is, my love for you.  She ended it by saying, I love you! I am sure its love.

I must say... .very touching.

[FallBack!Monster]

Earlier this evening, there was a knock at my door.  I went an opened. I thought I knew who it was.  To my surprise and what a relief when I saw my neighbor at the door.  She was holding a package that had been delivered to my door earlier today, when I was out.  As I was closing my door, I heard someone call out my name.  Frankly, my neighbors and I aren't on first name basis, per se, so I was taken aback for a bit.  The door was slightly cracked open, when looked out.  There she was. Looking like a sweet angel (in disguise).  I let her in.

She's all smiles. I am not.  It was awkward.  For a few seconds no one said anything.  She gazed at me with a smile, and I gaze at her looking for thoughts.

She said what? I said, what what? Then her posture and facial expression changed as she handed me a small bag.  I asked what was in there.  She said look in it.  Gave me a 4 second hug, then left out the door.

It was a bottle of perfume, a piece of paper where she wrote the words "dinner invitation.  My treat", and a 5 page hand written letter telling me how she currently feels about all that transpired between us.

The title of the letter is, my love for you.  She ended it by saying, I love you! I am sure its love.

I must say... .very touching.

[Lilyroze]

  Fallback,

I am no help with this as I had a rough day if you read my last... .. I don't want to encourage or give you wrong advice, but truly am so very happy for you.

I really think as I said before she was under a lot of stress from daughter. Does it make it right no... .do you want to be treated bad? No, or have her not comprehend? No... .

But all in all she has reached out and tried with dinner, stopping by, a beautiful gesture, better then the silent treatment I am getting... . not that it compares at all.

Truly either way she is trying. You now know what might be the issue with  daughter, and her, have the tools, the articles here and can make a choice.

The ball is in your court. Again though with her efforts, the tools you might really be able to make this work.

Hugs and let me know your thoughts.

How do you feel now after some thought?

Are you going to dinner with her?

I know you mentioned before the tools helped a little, what are your thoughts on a future or just at least knowing there doesn't have to be animosity

This post made my day again! Life is all about growth, living life to fullest, being happy, forgiving and moving forward together or moving onward with no meanness or drama.

Just remember the path is not to happiness. Happiness is the path. Keep finding the joy in the day my friend. An attitude of gratitude and enjoy! Carpe Diem onward and upward.

Keep posting and us updated. 

[Lilyroze]

Never mind strike that sorry read some of your others and saw the cheating. I knew you thought she did, but didn't know you confirmed. If that is the case then yes that boundary is an important one. She must value herself, you and your relationship enough to not triangulate, cheat or whatever. Still depends on you and if you can forgive or even want to. Just thought I should add this after seeing other. Blessings and hugs.

[FallBack!Monster]

the cheating. I knew you thought she did, but didn't know you confirmed.

I am no help with this

You are always a big help.  I enjoy reading some of your post.  Not the sad ones but the others.

Yes I did confirmed. She trust people she shouldn't trust and they did more damage to me, than help, by showing me.  I didn't need to see that, trust me.  Anyway, when they were back stabbing her, I felt bad for her because I know how naive she is that she probably believes in this person to this day.

To me cheating is more than just having sex with someone else while in a r/s.  It is the biggest insult to the r/s, to your own self worth, and then some.  I'm kind of obsess with the NOT cheating thing.  However, isn't it ironic that at that very moment I felt bad for her and not for myself?

I told her that since I grew up, to prevent from cheating, I would make sure I didn't put myself in that type of predicament.  She said she's the same way, but I knew she was just echoing me b/c it made sense.

[heartandwhole]

Hi FallBack!Monster,

It was a touching gesture. How do you feel? What is your intuition telling you about this?

heartandwhole

[FallBack!Monster]

Hi FallBack!Monster,

It was a touching gesture. How do you feel? What is your intuition telling you about this?

heartandwhole

It tells me she still haven't attached fully to anyone else. Other than that, i have a headache. Stil It was sweet. Wouldn't you say?