That Didn't Last Long.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Looks like my ex and his new girlfriend broke up already. They were together only a month and talking marriage 2 weeks in. Instead of making me feel better in feeling worse. I was forced to get a place with my Mom which was the last thing I wanted and now I feel trapped. Like I'm in jail. My mom loves me and has been supportive but has her own issues that I've had to deal with all my life. I'm just missing my old life I guess.

[tammym1972]

Looks like my ex and his new girlfriend broke up already. They were together only a month and talking marriage 2 weeks in. Instead of making me feel better in feeling worse. I was forced to get a place with my Mom which was the last thing I wanted and now I feel trapped. Like I'm in jail. My mom loves me and has been supportive but has her own issues that I've had to deal with all my life. I'm just missing my old life I guess.

[rfriesen]

Hi tammy,

With the emotional turmoil that comes in the wake of these relationships, it can be hard not to want our old life back. I certainly hear you there. But the only way out is forward. Is there anything that you are doing or could do for yourself now? An activity or class or socializing that would get you out of "jail"?

[tammym1972]

I want to get back into church and maybe church singles groups. I'm finally getting settled to where I can start doing outside things again.

[rfriesen]

I want to get back into church and maybe church singles groups. I'm finally getting settled to where I can start doing outside things again.

Sounds like a great idea.

What do you mean by getting settled, and what do you still need to get there?

[tammym1972]

I meant settled in after moving twice.  I just need to get courage to go get the rest of my things.

[tammym1972]

It's just weird that I'm missing my old life and I'm more depressed now that I live with my Mom. I was very happy, even with a person that found fault in everything. I guess I was just comfortable. Just working from home and not doing much was perfect for me because I'm such a loner introvert anyway. just wish my Mom was more mature and not so nagging.

[lovenature]

Hey tammy

I know what it is like to be a loner and introvert, you feel so great when you have your PWBPD idealizing you. During devaluation you try so hard to make things work while being frustrated, hurt, and angry, finally you need to leave and the pain is excruciating. You must always look at the overall of your situation in life; better to be lonely (for a time) and in peace, or living the BPD rollercoaster from hell?

[tammym1972]

Hey tammy

I know what it is like to be a loner and introvert, you feel so great when you have your PWBPD idealizing you. During devaluation you try so hard to make things work while being frustrated, hurt, and angry, finally you need to leave and the pain is excruciating. You must always look at the overall of your situation in life; better to be lonely (for a time) and in peace, or living the BPD rollercoaster from hell?

The thing is life wasn't bad. we never argued and I thought we would be together forever. He did have the tendency to blame everything on me and always complain n matter what I did but I just shrugged it off. It didn't bother me that much. I just blamed the prednisone that he took. We didn't figure out he had BPD until the end. It sounds weird but I was happy.