Ederly Borderline

[Depression = 72% of members]

Hey there. Never done this before, so i don't know much how it works, but i will just plug right into a question i have, relating to BPD elderly parents.
Does anyone have extensive experience with older parents starting to need care from their children?
That's what I am currently dealing with and need advice.
Thanks!

[Birdie Lynn]

Hey there. Never done this before, so i don't know much how it works, but i will just plug right into a question i have, relating to BPD elderly parents.
Does anyone have extensive experience with older parents starting to need care from their children?
That's what I am currently dealing with and need advice.
Thanks!

[Turkish]

Hello BL,

Not a few of us have our are struggling with this very thing,  so I'm glad you reached out for support 

What are you dealing with specifically at this point in time? Are you sole caretaker? Love to hear more. 



Turkish

[Notwendy]

Hi Birdie- there are several of us here. I don't think there is one way to manage this. Some members have gone NC, others tried to maintain contact and help, but with boundaries. I think that is the difficult part, as it makes sense to want to help an elderly parent, but if that parent is abusive, we have to take care of our selves too. Since each situation is different, we deal with that on an individual basis. Yet the patterns of BPD are similar and the tools for relating, learning about boundaries, the Karpman drama triangle and sharing experiences are helpful.