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Social Media Attention Seeking/Revenge/Poke Agenda?
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February 01, 2017, 08:55:49 PM »
My exBPDgf is posting pictures on Instagram in order to get my attention.
The previous one was a picture of her crying and soon after, since I didn't talk to her, she approached me and wanted a recycle, this was on this Saturday. Today she posts a picture drinking coffee with another dude with mysterious quotes and saying how good it is to drink coffee with someone.
She HATES coffee, she never wanted to drink coffee with me. Barely 4 days after we talked about a recycle and she posts this out, I'm beyond pissed, I never got this angry with her before.
If she wanted me to crawl back to her after seeing this, it's having the opposite effect, I feel detachment, the only reason I didn't immediately unfollow her is that I hope she posts something like this again so that I can completely take her of my mind.
I guess this is the main reason to enforce NC, but my question is, why does she do this? It sounds so completely mixed, did any of you experience something like this?
I wanna go and curse her in 5 different languages, I'm really holding on and I'm not sure if I should, I just want to rage at her. How can someone be so heartless and unsympathetic to someone that opened up and gave her so much love and admiration.
Being angry actually feels good, but at the same time, I kinda feel like I'm going down to her level, she was the one angry all the time and smiling and I was the one crying.
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Quote from: Hlinthewiking on February 01, 2017, 08:55:49 PM
The previous one was a picture of her crying and soon after, since I didn't talk to her, she approached me and wanted a recycle, this was on this Saturday. Today she posts a picture drinking coffee with another dude with mysterious quotes and saying how good it is to drink coffee with someone.
There are a lot pieces missing here. Putting the emotion aside, what happened leading up to the discussion about getting back together... .bring everyone onboad.
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Hi Skip.
We weren't talking since my birthday Jan 17th, she contacted me on Saturday saying she had dreamed about me, coincidentally on the same day I dreamed about her and posted her about it, I was also thinking of contacting her.
We spoke for a while, I was surprised that she said she loved me too, because the way it ended, it seemed she didn't for a long time, but I don't want to get back, at least I'm trying my best not to, she hasn't changed a bit and doesn't seem to want help, she still says that the problems were me and I didn't give enough effort to the relationship :/. She tried to manipulate me to see her the same day, sent me pictures, say it was better in person... .I pretended I didn't get the message.
I'v been dating someone for a month and that person took pictures of herself on my room, I guess my exBPDgf is stalking who I like on Instagram and might have seen these pictures and tried to contact me because of it, that would also explain the picture of herself crying.
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