birthday time again

[BPDstinks]

Hi!  I hope everyone had at least a bearable holiday!  It feels like a minute but...tomorrow is my daughter's (pwBPD) 25th birthday

It seems like this should be more than a bday card & gift card with the (new) customary....Happy Birthday, I love you

I really miss my daughter

I wish I could just call, like most normal mother's can and do (she has made it very clear not to call)

I wish I was planning a birthday dinner (we used to go to the same restaurant EVERY single year for decades)

I know I could go on all day with wishes

(I know, like last year, I am going to wish I could just sleep all day until the day passes)

sigh

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi,
 I am estranged from my adult bpd son as well.  It is like a day of mourning. What I have done is actually did something nice for myself on that day.  After all, I was there with him   .  It is my day too!  Can you think of something small you can do for you; or even honor your child (i.e. small donation to charity dealing with the mentally ill/ bpd etc).?
Be gentle with you.

[BPDstinks]

Thank you for your understanding!  hmmm....well, I HAD to be at work, so, there's that!  I am very involved in many cat organizations and WAS planning on dropping off some donations (I am actually going to take my granddaughters' to a water park tomorrow, as I promised them for months!) I just wish there was a magic wand....

[js friend]

Hi Bpdstinks,

I also do something nice for myself on udds birthday.

sometimes its planned other times not, nothing extravagant. In a way it has become another mothers day that I celebrate and give to myself.

[BPDstinks]

well...another bday down...(this one was worse, because it is 2 in a row, yet easier, because I knew what to expect!) my husband had the harder time than me....I have tried, countless times, to explain the BPD world to him, with zero success