how to be empathetic when you are being emotionally attached.

[sheetmetaldog]

My last experience with my girlfriends emotional breakdowns was when she wanted to turn on peppa pig for her kids an I was on my youtube last and it came up and I told her to switch to her youtube to find it easier and she flipped out because she thought I was hiding something in my youtube history and went into a hateful rage that lasted 2 hours . I tried to empathise and deescalate the situation and she just got madder "because I was spineless and would not stand up for myself"  She is right in the fact that I did not want to fight. Now I have been in a bit of shock and she is trying to make up to me sweet as pie, making sexual advances (which has worked in the past) and now she is accusing me of avoidance behavior. I am not trying to avoid her and I am responding to her . I am just hurt, depressed, and trying to get over it,  I love her and her girls (2 and 4 years old) and when we get along I am very happy. But I am walking through a mine field.

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