Welcome G.G.: I'm sorry for what you have been through. Sounds like you have a tough decision to make. You say you finally have peace in your home, after your separation. I can understand your conflict, as to whether to take him back. I'm glad you are getting therapy and that it is helping you.
I am asking if anyone out there has a testimony for their spouse overcoming this disorder. He is a good man, under all of the junk. I know all things are possible with God, but we must say "yes" and yield to His spirit. . .Now that we live separately, there is finally peace in our home. However, he is pressuring me to come back and resume the marriage.
Perhaps, a condition for him coming back would be to complete a certain amount of therapy and show proof that he is working on changing his bad behavior
You are right in saying you can't change him. The only thing that you can do is to manage the way you interact with him and react to him. Using certain communication skills can make things easier for you. There are links to some good tools in the margin to your right and within the "Tools" menu inside the large green band at the very top of this page.
What type of potentially harmful situations has your husband place you in?
This can be a good place to practice some of the lessons. Some people like to post about what they read in a given lesson, check their understand and gain some input, as they try to apply a lesson to their specific situation.
There are a lot of helpful people. We look forward to hearing more of your story.