Hi streif,

I'd like to join islime and welcome you to bpdfamily. I'd like to add to what you said about being too close to the situation, if she has BPD, a pwBPD will often say things that are not balanced, for example all good things or all bad things and not at the same time, it helps to get realistic feedback about you, so it's not distorted.
I'd like to add to what islime said about not being dismissed here for your thoughts, this place is a place where you can share your thoughts and feelings without being judged. I loved that when I got here because I didn't have very supportive people in my life, I mean some of them meant well but they don't realize how invalidating that they can be. You're not alone.