First time here

[Strongnfree]

Hi. I have been struggling with my husbands extreme mood wings and intense anger for sometime now. Up until recently, I thought somehow I was responsible. I thought it was something I could control if I made changes to myself and my own personal relationships ie: terminating friendships with others, sensoring my feelings and basically living a life walking on eggshells. Sacrificing my own needs in attempt to make him "happy", has changed nothing. And as result I have lost myself in the process.  After searching and researching for answers, I feel that my husband may have BPD. Although he's never been diagnosed by a medical professional, I feel that the discription of symptoms, describes his behaviours to a tee. I have read Randi kregers books recently and found them very empowering and validating. Finally I know that how he acts has nothing to do with me. I am struggling now with what to do next, but I am eager to get my life back and start feeling like "me" again. I have decided to join your group in attempt to get support and strength from others dealing with similar issues. Thank you.

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[JoeBPD81]

Welcome,
It seems that you took the first steps, and you have a positive attitude. I hope you find the support you need and find ways to improve your situation, small improvements feel great when you've been going nowhere but down, and they make a  difference.