Very desperate, last chance with partner, four kids and pregnant

[Tjakana]

Hi, I have a really complicated situation, and I really love my partner, but we have conflict violence, and breaking things even in front of the baby... .it is breaking my heart. I am the one with suspected BPD but i am sure he has something, too, he is quite paranoid and has a very quick temper. Everyone in his family says he was a real sweetie before he met me, but since we have been together, he has has a mental breakdown, lost his job, and his friends and I do not know if I am to blame, but it starting to look that way. I am looking for redemption, and a way to make us all happy again. My daughters see my awful behaviour, they are 6 and 10, and I just want to break the cycle. Is it possible to get help? Is there healing? I live in the Czech Republic, I think they are a bit behind here with psycho=help, but I am scheduled to see a psychologist on Thursday, 6th of April, and a marriage counsillor together, please pray for me, God help me,
Good luck to all of you,
XXX

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[Mutt]

Hi Tjakana, 



I'm sorry to hear that. I can see how distressing that would feel with a large and a baby on the way. I'm glad that you decided to join the group, it helps to talk to people that can relate with you. Do you suspect that you have BPD? Are you safe at the moment. I'm looking forward to reading more of your posts.

[Zane]

Hi Tjakana,

I also live in Cz and also have BPD and kids... .my partner and I are seeing someone to sort it out but so far little progress. Please write more