He crossed right in front of my car even with a PO

[Depression = 72% of members]

So today i was rushing back home after a not so good morning meeting... and driving down my street at a time i was certain he would not be delivering mail... .there he is walking , he saw me made eye contact with me... and instead of like a normal human waiting until i pass by... he walks right in front of my car... .if i wanted to I could have hit him... .

i seriously do not know what held me back... maybe the shock of it and me shaking ... so instead i turned my music real loud and i saw him quickly put his head down... .   

i called my attorney because it was like he purposely crossed in front of me seeing it was me and this is just the start of what i think is him pulling this crap

im rattled to say the least

[Idsrvt2]

So today i was rushing back home after a not so good morning meeting... and driving down my street at a time i was certain he would not be delivering mail... .there he is walking , he saw me made eye contact with me... and instead of like a normal human waiting until i pass by... he walks right in front of my car... .if i wanted to I could have hit him... .

i seriously do not know what held me back... maybe the shock of it and me shaking ... so instead i turned my music real loud and i saw him quickly put his head down... .   

i called my attorney because it was like he purposely crossed in front of me seeing it was me and this is just the start of what i think is him pulling this crap

im rattled to say the least

[heartandwhole]

Hi Idsrv2,

That would have rattled me, too. How are you feeling today? What did your lawyer say about it?

heartandwhole

[Idsrvt2]

I, feeling better today but only because I met with an abuse concelor.
My attorney fired me becaus I questioned her and she said I was blaming her... I was only presenting facts and that the detective gave me info that condridicts what she told me.

She was again combative on the phone and defensive... .and said to me well since you agreed in court he did not violate it as he is still allowed to work, ... which is false , she the atty refused to change the addition his side made to the PO.  I had to fight her just to get her to tell his side I wanted six months protection as she refused
She said being reported and I'm having it documented .


The detective told me that I'm letting this control me. He took the report but I had to sit there with no one present for over an hour.   He also said the x must be mentally sound as he works for the govt... .I started crying when he said that.  And went back at him and said well x was almost sent twice for a psych eval. Etc etc.

It's basically a wait u til something happens in this country and then people point fingers... .I have everything so documented they won't point at me but themselves on this one, the court, legal aid, the detective, etc. even the post office



Today for the first time in real life I felt like I have support and I will be putting things in motion next week to try and overturn whatbhis side entered because right now I have no protection and he can do as he wants under the excuse of he was working.
This is all consuming because this was mishandled from the start at the first court date when the judge did not have my file... .it snowballed after that. 

So since the detective feels this is controlling me... I now sit on my porch And get video of how close he is to me...   my presence is now known... .he wants to act out and jump in front of me again ... I hope he does.


Btw the x had massive amounts of firearms that the family now has... .gotta love that 2nd amendment the detective confirmed it and then handed me the domestic abuse card.
IMO they make very light of these situations and if your x works for the govt he must be sane. That's the frustrating thing.

The councilor feels strongly that it's possible the x used the PO as a method to control me as well as walking in front of my car to do the same.  I never until today saw the x as abusive... .

I will continue to document , I feel like I'm regaining some of my power back although everyday is a struggle.

Hi Idsrv2,

That would have rattled me, too. How are you feeling today? What did your lawyer say about it?

heartandwhole

[Turkish]

Because he works for the government... .and so? That's an invalidating response to say the last,  as well as irrelevant. 

I'd take it that the detective is doing the minimum required for his job.  Best to let the counselor guide you at this point as to the next steps and what you need to do in order to feel safe.  Did you get advice better than what you have obtained up to this point?

[Idsrvt2]

The counselor was not happy thendetective said that to me , or was the legal team representative... .she offered suggestions and one I'm inacting now. I.e. His boss just left me a msg.
They said what you did that my feelings were minimized especially being told I'm letting this control me.

My x has a police officer in the family and I just got an odd vibe from the detective that he was viewing me as the crazy one type of thing... .they all know about this because of the number of firearms they had to pick up... .but yet they just don't care really he even said many have guns ... . 

I have another session next week where we will discuss more about how I can cope with this.  Ironically I called them when all this started but I thought it was just a hotline... .just wish I would have known ... they actually get it... .not once was I invalidated and for the first time I didn't cry telling my story... .I felt safe.

If he wasn't always around me I could move past this enough to function better... .we shall see what the boss says... .I'm not too hopeful... .the last guy stole our mail for years.

Because he works for the government... .and so? That's an invalidating response to say the last,  as well as irrelevant. 

I'd take it that the detective is doing the minimum required for his job.  Best to let the counselor guide you at this point as to the next steps and what you need to do in order to feel safe.  Did you get advice better than what you have obtained up to this point?