3 months since finally ending it with her

[Depression = 72% of members]

All this talk about wondering whether or not they are happy. But surely from our own experiences we all know that they are never happy. Even during the the love bombing phase when they are acting so happily we know deep down they still are not. 3 months since finally ending it with her I looked at her fb it appears as though she is happy. After complaining about me and smear campaigning me on fb for about 8 months. But I know it is all a facade. I know she will keep making the same mistakes over and over again and she will never change and always ultimately be the architect of her own unhappiness. And that makes me happy

[disgruntledgoat]

All this talk about wondering whether or not they are happy. But surely from our own experiences we all know that they are never happy. Even during the the love bombing phase when they are acting so happily we know deep down they still are not. 3 months since finally ending it with her I looked at her fb it appears as though she is happy. After complaining about me and smear campaigning me on fb for about 8 months. But I know it is all a facade. I know she will keep making the same mistakes over and over again and she will never change and always ultimately be the architect of her own unhappiness. And that makes me happy

[once removed]

hey disgruntledgoat and

it sounds like you had a rough go of it. what led you to end it?

[Harley Quinn]

Hi disgruntledgoat,

Welcome to the board 

It's natural to feel some anger/resentment towards your ex as part of the healing process.  We've all been there.  It is like a bereavement, after what can be an extremely intense and emotionally charged relationship.  How long were you together?

3 months since finally ending it with her I looked at her fb it appears as though she is happy. After complaining about me and smear campaigning me on fb for about 8 months.

   

It sounds like you were having a difficult time being split black for the last few months you were together from what you say above.  Would that be right?

Glad you found the site.  Everyone on this board is at some stage in the healing journey and can be a support to you.  There are some fantastic articles and lessons to help you too. 

Love and light x