Sleeping in separate rooms

[DearHusband]

How long have people gone sleeping in separate rooms? Been as long as 8 months and currently nearing 3 weeks. She knows I hate this, but when I'm painted black, she says she just can't do it. What has your experience been?

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[Turkish]

When mine did it,  I found out later she had found someone else. 

In your case,  this sounds like a recurring behavior which doesn't imply cheating.  Maybe she demonstrating her hurt by not sleeping in your bed.  What does she say?

[Mutt]

Hi DearHusband,

I would sometimes sleep on the couch for 6 months, this happened a couple of times over 7.5 years.

I was split black like and there was a lot of conflict between her and I.

Are you going through a rocky period? Are you having conflict? Maybe we can help if we get more details.

[eggfry]

If I may ask, what caused you to sleep separately?

We opted for separate apartments in the same building after an event. Thought post that it was wise to have some alone space instead of putting two people in a tuna can sized apartment with the only door being a bathroom door.

[Karmajoy]

What was the incident that made you no longer be painted black and go back to the bedroom or did you not ever get repainted?