Hello,
So I just signed up for this site because just this past weekend I realized my mom has BPD. I'm actually a bit nervous to write on here because I haven't talked about it much. As a quick summary, I grew up with mom (parents divorced) and she was an alcoholic. I had always assumed her issues and the ones I have were the result of her alcoholism. I now realize that it was only a part of the problem. My mom requires everything to be about her and has difficulty being happy or empathize for with anyone. SO, she quit drinking and met a nice man and I thought everything was going well. Sure, she can be difficult, but I thought that once she quit drinking the behaviour was over. Fast forward to the present, her relationship ended and she is now single. All of her old behaviours have returned minus the drinking. She has called me crying and speaking in a child's voice and pouting when I don't respond to her constant "I am the victim" mentality. When I spoke to her about it, she doesn't remember. She says she took to much cough syrup and that I can't be mad at her because she doesn't remember. She is dating men that are very questionable characters and she has a history of bad choices with men. There's so much to this story, I couldn't possibly write it all down.
I guess I just wanted to vent and ask what you all did to start the healing process? I'm not ready to cut her out of my life, but I am ready to make boundaries and work on myself. Thanks for listening... .or reading.
