Need to Learn Coping Skills

[window01]

I'm reading How to Stop Walking on Eggshells and it mentioned this site as a place to find support and share ideas.  I'm in a relationship with someone that seems to me to have the traits of BPD.  I should definitely leave her, but I feel I can't because I'm worried she will hurt me or hurt herself.  It makes me feel trapped, hopeless, and worthless because I don't have the strength to leave.  I look forward to being a part of this board.

[RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING]

RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM SOLVING This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members are welcomed to express frustration but must seek constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

[DaddyBear77]

window01, welcome, and thanks for joining us!

I also came here after reading SWOE, and I'm really glad I did.

I can relate to the impulse to stay because of the worry that my wife will be worse off without me. Can you share a little but more about what this means for you? Has she harmed herself before? What were the circumstances? Does the self harm pre-date your relationship? If so, how did she cope before you knew her?

Please share a little more if you can - I can see some definite similarities between our stories and those of many others here. You've come to the right place!

~DaddyBear77

[Tattered Heart]

Hi window01,

I'm sorry that you are feeling so scared in your relationship. Has your partner physically hurt you before? Can you share with us a little more about what is going on?