Angry and Sad At the Verbal Abuse and Other Nonsense

[Ellemno]

While I finally got that last encounter out of my system and walked away, I'm grieving again. Ex seems fine and has next one ready to go. I am angry and hurt and sad, and doing some unhealthy comparing to the next person, even though I honestly understand that world of hurt she's about to be in for and frankly don't want to trade places.

It's just bringing up feels of worthlessness and anger at my mistreatment. I've already gone through the "how I contributed" part, and "what I need for a healthy r/s" and know that our r/s wasn't really what I thought, but I guess I didn't fully go through the anger and other feelings.

I am so angry and sad.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Ellemno, It's normal to feel angry, hurt and sad after parting ways with one's BPD Ex.  In my view, it's all part of the grieving process.  What helped me was figuring out why I got into a r/s with a pwBPD in the first place, which question usually involves one's FOO and/or childhood trauma.  That's a worthwhile inquiry, I think, because it involves going deeper than the BPD r/s itself.  In the meantime, suggest you continue to acknowledge your feelings and let them pass through you.

LuckyJim