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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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En1gma

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« on: November 19, 2017, 12:16:53 PM »

My exBPD that I dated for 8 weeks kept an image on Facebook of being single and no relationship. She was very careful to not be in pics with other men in an intimate way. No embrace, no kisses etc. official status was always “Single” on Facebook. Most pics were her with other female friends. I suspect it’s to prevent ex partners from flipping out and thinking there’s always a chance later. Anyone else experience this? The whole thing seemed shady. BTW, hasn’t had a relationship last more than 2-3 months in 20 years.
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« Reply #1 on: November 20, 2017, 03:03:34 PM »

Perhaps it's directly related to the brief nature of her relationships.  Maybe she feels it just isn't worth changing that as she is not with anyone for long. 

I take it she didn't alter this when you were together?  How did/does that make you feel? 

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« Reply #2 on: November 21, 2017, 05:29:11 PM »

Perhaps it's directly related to the brief nature of her relationships.  Maybe she feels it just isn't worth changing that as she is not with anyone for long. 

I take it she didn't alter this when you were together?  How did/does that make you feel? 

Love and light x

She had the same MO so to speak with me. A casual glance on Facebook and it would appear that she just hangs out with girlfriends. No real serious indications of a solid relationship. It made me feel like the entire situation was a setup. That up front she knew it was going to fail. Why indicate you’re spoken for when she has other interested men on the hook. Her whole romantic life is a sham. That’s how I feel.
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« Reply #3 on: November 21, 2017, 08:06:28 PM »

I wasn't allowed to post anything romantic about me and my ex, in fact I had to be careful about what I posted it had to be the odd joke or link to something.
At first her reasons were as not to upset her previous boyfriend who she was engaged to (I know him), then it was so as not to upset her kids dad.
Seeing as everyone knew we were together it seemed stupid.
After a year not a single picture of us or anything about us.
We got engaged and she announced it but within a week she had deleted it and all comments and likes.
Her reasons were because she fell out with her mum over the engagement and she felt she wouldn't be able to resist saying something sarcastic to her after a drink.
Also so her kids dad didn't see it because he would be upset even though he knew we were engaged. He couldn't see it as he was blocked anyway.
I could go on but it all just beggars belief as much now as it did then.
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