Time to move on. Thank you all

[Cire155]

I have taken the time to heal my wounds from my exBPD. Meeting her was the best thing that ever happened to me. I can say that now because I was able to deal with childhood issues that made me a codependent. At first the pain of the breakup was unbearable at times. I look back at my initial post on here and I don't know who that person is anymore. My self esteem was shot, my confidence was at an all time low, and I would have taken her back if she had let me. It's been 83 days since my break up and 67 days since my last contact with her. I worked on myself and became a better person. I won't allow anyone to disrespect my boundaries. I won't ignore red flags. Love should not feel like walking on eggshells to appease your significant other. I don't want to neglect myself for the benefit of someone else. I accept this person has an illness but I don't accept the way they treated me because of it. I have since went back to dating and did meet a woman this past Thanksgiving who I want to get to know better. We are taking it slow and I'm still working on myself as well. I think my time on this site will be very limited as I have moved on. I thank everyone that made this site possible because it helped me to know I was not alone. For those that are still feeling the effects of a dealing with someone with BPD, I say this, heal yourself. Make NC your best weapon to heal. Get off social media and cut off all ties. Make yourself the number priority for once. Never regret showing your true feelings for someone who's illness prevented them from accepting what you had to offer. Take care all

[Dargumin]

This is encouraging. Congratulations and good luck!

[blueblue12]

Cire, beautiful post, thank you. Wish you all the best, like you I am in the road to find myself as well, it will take time but I am on the road to find out. Take care.

[Pencil sketch]

Just what I needed to read. Have made a copy of it, and have it handy on my phone.
I wish you the best, I think what you have written, will give alot of us hope, and the determination to push forward.
Thank you xxx

[Lost-love-mind]

Dittos.
I'm on my way to healing as well.
I have not met anyone new, but that takes time.
No more online dating. Meet a "functional" mate at a function e.g. church, etc, not on a computer.
Y'all showed me the way.
Thank you.

[Cire155]

Dittos.
I'm on my way to healing as well.
I have not met anyone new, but that takes time.
No more online dating. Meet a "functional" mate at a function e.g. church, etc, not on a computer.
Y'all showed me the way.
Thank you.

I actually didn't plan on meeting anyone. I just needed to get out and mingle. I did meet this person online. Its funny because I met my exBPD in person at a social gathering. The illness has no set habitat . I decided to hit the online dating scene and take a chance. I met a couple of nice people but one did stand out from the others and we had a fun time. We are not rushing anything and just enjoying each others company with no expectations and let things flow naturally. My self esteem is back on track and I'm hyper vigilant to red flags. I even turned down a woman who I thought had BPD tendencies. I think having that confidence and establishing strong boundaries is so pivotal. Don't be afraid to get out and be social. I was thinking about starting a meetup for BPD survivors in my local area and helping people in similar situations as us.