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[Xanadu]

After a crazy 2 days of divorce threats my BPDh has now returned to being madly in love with me. It still baffles me how he can switch from intense anger and hatred to being attentive and loving. I learned something this last time around... .DON'T TAKE IT PERSONAL! and I am hoping to make this a permanent attitude!

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[Mutt]

Hi In a Quandary,



That sounds like a stressful couple of days. I’m sorry to hear that. How long have you been married? Do you have kids together? Is he diagnosed with BPD?

[Xanadu]

Got married young... .both of us 18... .have been married 45 years, we have 6 grown children and 26 grandchildren

He went to counseling one time when I was pregnant with our 4th child. He had a bad experience and declared he would never go back and won't consider it to this day.

[pearlsw]

After a crazy 2 days of divorce threats my BPDh has now returned to being madly in love with me. It still baffles me how he can switch from intense anger and hatred to being attentive and loving. I learned something this last time around... .DON'T TAKE IT PERSONAL! and I am hoping to make this a permanent attitude!

Hi In a Quandry,

Your last days sound like mine! How often does this happen? Does he have any awareness about it? Brush things under the rug?

wishing you peace, pearl.