I agree I think that it helps to understand basic psych because then you can understand why a pwBPD act the way that they intimacy requires empathy, hearing and understanding your partner is empathic comprehension when you’re withholding you’re taking away that level intamuxy, why does someone do it? Here’s a good article:
BPD BEHAVIORS: Silent treatmentIs there something that happened before he gave you the silent treatment. I don’t want to generalize I usually got the silent treatment when I was in conflict with my ex pwBPD it’ was a means for her and I to assert control over the other person.
Thank you Mutt. I read every single comment.
Actually something did happen. I was upset by his not being too eager to see me. And in general he is always hot and cold. I told him that he thinks too much and needs to make up his mind about his feelings for me. I also told him that I think he is trying to hide something from me since he always tries to stop me from visiting him. Before all this he had blamed me for not being sensitive enough about his troubles with work and daily life. He is very secretive and NEVER open about his feelings. He hardly ever tells me that he even misses me. I know he cares about me but he never tells. I think I got tired of trying to solve the puzzle on my own.
After all the voice mails I left he did not say a single word. I tried the next day, nothing. An a 3rd time the following day, still nothing. Today it has been a week. I don't know what is going through his mind. This is the 2nd time he is doing this. The last time it lasted 16 days. I feel like this one will be much longer. I wish I knew what he was thinking.
