Progressive Mental Health Disorder?

[Angie59]

Hello everyone,

I have a question to ask and am afraid this is happening with my son's uBPD fiance. 

Do BPs generally get worse in their behavior, actions, etc.?  They have been together now 4 years and things seem to get worse and worse on her end.  Just wondering if this was "normal" for BPD?

Any thoughts on this would certainly be welcome.

Angie59

[Turkish]

Worse in my case with my ex had a lot to do with circumstances (one child, then another, and the added stress). Separation was tragic, but I get along with my ex now. When a marriage reaches a certain stress point,  emotions run high. Do you think this is what's going on? I'll admit I wasn't always the best at the time.

BPD runs on a spectrum. A lot of our partners are sub clinical. They doesn't mean that they can't cause problems and pain. 

What's going on now?

[Angie59]

Good morning Turkish!

Early tomorrow morning my son's fiance (uBPD) will be leaving for her trip out of country with another man.  I feel like every week we go to their house to babysit our grandson, things are heated up another notch.  That is why I refer to their house as feeling toxic. 

It's kind of hard to put into words.  It seems like her behavior just keeps escalating; not being with my son or kids more and more and more, never keeps house, which I guess she can't if she is not there, never even greeting her kids when she does come home and just walking right past them.  I think that might be what I am referring to.  She went to the bar she works at to see the home opener of our home baseball team - without my son.  She has so little time with her family and the night she is off she chooses to spend it at the bar. 

Seems like everything is just escalating.  I feel so tense when I'm there, but I'm not giving up my grandson for anything.  Besides my son, he seems to be the only stable thing he has.

Thanks for listening.

Angie59