Is itpossible that she bugged my phone?

[Thea]

 I have phone calls when she isnt home and somehow she knows what I say? who I text? Am I losing her mind? how is she doing this?

[CryWolf]

its possible to have your iphone account logged in multiple devices. I recieve texts on my macbook and iphone. Do you know if this could possibly be the case? How does she bring this up?

[lighthouse9]

Hey Thea,

I would echo CryWolf's questions and also add that you might want to consider checking out this link: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=59369.0

bpdfamily is meant to be a safe space for you to post and we'd hate to see you lose that. If you're concerned about your privacy in general, it might be time to consider some of the tips in the above post that are specific to posting here.

Keep us posted

[Thea]

I have very strong settings on my phone. Today I searched for devices on my network didn't find anything suspicious, such as a network camera. She knows I was talking to my sister, I rarely talk to her this is not a lucky guess.She also knew my called me and at what time- also impossible. The whole thing is making me very sick. I am so so sick. The games and subtleties are maddening. I need an exit plan with my kids. Court and custody and NPD are not a good combination especially since I am broken down and have no income, Wow it is all making sense now. ALL OF IT.

[SlyQQ]

she might have bugged house

best advice treat it as such and use it too your advantage, yes.

[Turkish]

She also knew my called me and at what time- also impossible.

This is concerning. Could her kid have overheard? If your phone security is solid, then this is especially weird. Could a tech at an apple store maybe help make sense of it?

[Calmcollected]

You could have a spy app on your phone. It is a virus and undetectable. You will have to wipe your phone. It happened to a man I know.

[Cromwell]

I have phone calls when she isnt home and somehow she knows what I say? who I text? Am I losing her mind? how is she doing this?

if she knows who you text, it could be spyware program installed on your phone.

It could also be depending on what network you are with, like my BPDx did, registered my phone online using my details then had online access to switch on various settings that would archive my texts, phone log history and sync stuff.

I had to ditch two smart phones and went to one of those retro 90s nokias. Its funny how she never once said "why did you get rid of your phone for that"? which would have been normal.

I found out the hard way, and it took me time, that my ex had absolutely no regard for the idea of intruding into my personal privacy however she could. I was open and honest with her to a huge degree but she then started to go even further. They can and do stalk, for the feelings of control and to take away their own paranoia (my ex always believed irrationally that her ex partners and myself were all going to cheat on her) when historically, all her r/s dissolved due to her being the one doing just that.

Im not very tech but id say at least, wipe your phone if not replace it but also think about changing your online stuff that she might have access to? things such as Gmail, or any cloud related backup software.

sorry you are going through this, I know how it feels.