Hi there
It's been a while I haven't posted here. I am going through a hard time now with my uBPD mother. She has been yelling, fighting, violently attacking my dad (enabler) and trying everything to get me back to the Caretaker role. Fortunately, I am still seeing a therapist every other week and have been reading about how to protect myself.
Today I am here to recommend this reading to anyone that has a borderline person in their life. I wish I had read this before.
It is a brilliant article from Dr. David M. Allen on how to respond the provocations from the borderline person.
Responding to “Borderline” Provocations—Part IReacting to someone with borderline personality disorder is a challenge
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/matter-personality/201311/responding-borderline-provocations-part-iResponding to “Borderline” Provocations—Part II How NOT to RespondHow to succeed at feeling helpless with someone with borderline personality
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/matter-personality/201312/borderline-provocations-how-not-respondResponding to “Borderline” Provocations – Part IIIEffective “countermoves” to typical "borderline” provocations
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/matter-personality/201401/responding-borderline-provocations-part-iiiResponding to “Borderline” Provocations Part IVSpecific countermeasures to the usual strategies in the BPD bag of tricks used to distance and/or invalidate you, as well as to make you feel anxiously helpless, anxiously guilty, or hostile.
BPD provocation #1: Exaggerated over-genereralizations and wild accusations.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/matter-personality/201403/responding-borderline-provocations-part-ivResponding to “Borderline” Provocations Part VBPD provocation #2: Escalating demands on you to do more and more to make them feel better, when absolutely nothing you do or offer seems to help.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/matter-personality/201403/responding-borderline-provocations-part-vResponding to “Borderline” Provocations Part VIBPD provocation #3, their use of seemingly illogical statements and absurd arguments.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/matter-personality/201405/responding-borderline-provocations-part-viResponding to “Borderline” Provocations Part VII: ParasuicidalityHere are some things to know about suicide threats and self injuring in BPD
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/matter-personality/201406/borderline-provocations-part-vii-parasuicidalityResponding to "Borderline" Provocations: Last PartWhat to do when none of the previous interventions seem to decrease the negative or angry responses of the family member with BPD, and what to do when you yourself blow your cool and react with a nasty comment.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/matter-personality/201410/responding-borderline-provocations-last-part
