And I ask, what is "best partner available"?
For instance, going back to the deal breaker subject posted elsewhere, I can make a pretty compelling argument that both my exes left me when their earning prospects outshone mine. When my first ex wife was on the verge of receiving her first big commission check during the whole time we were together, she then up and left the week it was supposed to hit our account. My second ex left two months after being unemployed for 7 months the best job I could find paid me 50% less than what I was accustomed to earning and I was thusly making significantly less than she and taking early distributions from my 401k to make ends meet.
Sometimes you just don't know who you're REALLY dealing with until the relationship faces adversity.
J
True.
In my 2 yr relationship much of the time was dealing with her problems. Her family issues. Her court and new parenting plan. Her taxes. Car accident. Helping to start a business for her etc etc.
Then one day she receives a final dispersement for her inheritance. (A week prior we were house hunting, she was trying to get pregnant etc)
Out of the blue she is just like "I'm not sure what I want to do with this money. I might want to live in Colorado(across the country from me) . I might move to a different country"
At that moment I saw who she really was. She also could not understand how on earth I would be hurt or upset for her to do such a thing. As if I didn't even exist and she is talking to a random stranger.
That's when I questioned what was real. What was love. What was manipulation. Etc etc