POLL: Have you told your therapist about BPDFamily?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Yes, I've discussed this site with my psychologist and have shared insights and learnings on and off through the years. We both view it as similar to group therapy/group process, especially the Learning after a Failed Relationship.

[MaybeSo]

Yes, I've discussed this site with my psychologist and have shared insights and learnings on and off through the years. We both view it as similar to group therapy/group process, especially the Learning after a Failed Relationship.

[JNChell]

I haven’t yet, but will be at my session this week. This will only be our second session. I think she’ll get it. I haven’t mentioned BPD/NPD to her yet, but after explaining some of the relationship in which I mentioned gas lighting, she asked if I felt like I was going crazy while in the relationship. This perked me up a bit. She validated me on the fact that I had indeed been extorted by my ex. This was another green flag. Come to think of it, I did mention narcissism. I was describing to her about a big emotional meltdown and some other behaviors that my S3 has been having since the split. I told her that I discussed it with my sister who a psychologist. My sister recommended play therapy if the behaviors worsen or continue. I told her that my ex wouldn’t go for it, and she, in so many words, said my ex was a bad parent and a narcissist. Sure enough, when I tried to discuss this with my ex, she told me that he’s only 3 and that there is something wrong with me. My sister specializes in children and PD’s. I trust her advice. What a nightmare this has all been. I hate the reasons for having to be here and in therapy, but I’m grateful that this site exists.

[Skip]

Its good to synch the work with the therapist with your work here... .there can be great synergy.

[40days_in_desert]

I've told my T and she is familiar with the site. She conducts DBT and has an in depth knowledge of BPD. I started seeing her about a year ago mainly to learn skills to better communicate with my ex. I'll bring her examples of my interactions with my ex and we go over what went well, what didn't and what could have been said/done differently. I sometimes reference generic examples from the site but never give my profile name or that of anyone else.

[Duped 1]

Definitely and I talk about it all of the time...

[Feeling Better]

Yes, I told my counsellor, can’t remember if it was my first or second session. I thought it best so that she knew that I was getting extra support and information elsewhere.

[Turkish]

Yes.  I gave him the site address.  He never brought it up again and neither did I. I was briefly butt-hurt, then moved past it as his validation of my time here specifically didn't matter in the long run.  Early on he observed, "you have a healthy disrespect for my profession." Yes. Thanks for reinforcing that.  But really, it didn't matter in the long run.  I know I own my healing. 

[Mustbeabetterway]

 I have recently entered therapy again with a therapist I went to in the past.  She knows I read, learn and post here.  She says that she supports my posting, if it helps me.  She is glad for me to get support and validation.  I do have a few friends who know about my struggles and are supportive.  But, the BPD family members understand what it is like to be in a relationship with a pwBPD.  The therapist is in favor of support groups for healing.

Mustbeabetterway

[Rubies]

I learned and participated at BDFamily before I got my therapist.  I shared the resource with her as part of what I was doing for myself toward recovery.  I believe the knowledge here helped her as much as it does me.  It's been many years since she was my therapist but we still share resources and knowledge with each other.  I'm halfway through a book she loaned me on neuroplasticity and brain training.