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Re: Seeing my EXpwBPD on campus pt 2
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October 07, 2018, 03:03:27 AM »
Quote from: CryWolf on October 07, 2018, 02:36:55 AM
i just wanted to speak to her.
sort of just friendly ex stuff like "how you doing, hope your well" type of stuff?
I have no idea why she would be so avoidant and behaving in a way as if you are invisible.
Cant remember what happened or who was to blame for you both breaking up but I imagine it must have been serious for her to be hiding in the toilets.
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She’s wasn’t hiding. She didn’t know I was in the building. I used the bathroom then walked out. Then walked back in and then she walked out the bathroom too. I had no idea she was in there and she didn’t know either. We both went from building to building and ended in both the same buildings
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you want to talk to her, but when you meet her she doesnt appear open for any conversation, not even a Hi.
it appears to any reasonable minded person that, in the context of having had a relationship in the past - you are now getting the cold shoulder.
To anyone not knowing anything else, it forces the question "what happened here?"
Did you hit her, cheat on her, break her heart?
something doesnt add up here, it makes no sense.
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We don’t meet intentionally but the last 2 encounters we bump into another she sees me with a different attractive girl each time. And She had a few nightmares before where she saw me walking/talking to attractive girls on campus.
She wanted to be friends after the breakup and I said no I wanted more. She didn’t want romance and I did after 3 years. This triggered her abandonment. I tried pleading my case Nd over pursued after the breakup for a while.
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Update: friend told me she talked to ex. Here is how the convo went apparently.
F: crywolf told me he messaged you, have you talked t him?
Ex: I saw it, but haven’t replied or opened message. How close aren’t you guys?
F: we just say hi and bye. I heard Crywolf side of the story and you guys should talk for closure.
Ex: I already gave him closure. (Explains break up)
Friend: he says he misses you, do you miss him?
Ex: I don’t.
Ex also accused me of trying to make her jealous by walking with a girl on campus all the time. Ex also says I’m manipulative and for my friend to watch out.
She kept asking who this girl im with all the time is, and how this girl is always staring st my ex and giving her dirty looks...
I’ve told no girl about my ex and Idk what girl she keeps mentioning.
Ex also said “consider meeting him up but we have to meet on campus for my safety”
Wtf? Her safety? My friend also said “your ex has never said anything bad about you” and my ex says “wow that’s a surprise”
I don’t tell the friend anything personal anymore as I don’t want it to go back to my ex, however we hang out as friends and are going to a concert in the future.
I think I’m going to completely distance myself with the whole ex situation. I was missing her when I heard she cared and c hanged the dynamics of the situation but now I know she cares whether she will admit it or not.
But I don’t want to go down that rabbit hole again.
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Exes bday is today. I will not be reaching out for her bday whatsoever.
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