Married for 20 years

[Depression = 72% of members]

I had a nervous breakdown after a gradual slip back into caretaker role  I am not setting healthy boundaries. About six years ago a read stop walking on egg shells and I was able to use the tools depersonalize his behaviors and detach with love and set healthy boundaries. As my health deteriorated I lost sight or maybe pretended like he wasn’t till maybe it was easier to do that but ultimately because I stopped taking care of myself and my physical health and my Mental Health got worse so now I am recovering at my moms house  i’m feel like I’m starting over I know it’s going to take time to feel like I have control right now I am anxious to have the right words to have my needs met to say the right thing in conversation and start sticking up for myself again but I do feel weak I know Ill feel stronger that’s the plus is that I know where I’m at now it can only get better.

[freedomforreal]

I had a nervous breakdown after a gradual slip back into caretaker role  I am not setting healthy boundaries. About six years ago a read stop walking on egg shells and I was able to use the tools depersonalize his behaviors and detach with love and set healthy boundaries. As my health deteriorated I lost sight or maybe pretended like he wasn’t till maybe it was easier to do that but ultimately because I stopped taking care of myself and my physical health and my Mental Health got worse so now I am recovering at my moms house  i’m feel like I’m starting over I know it’s going to take time to feel like I have control right now I am anxious to have the right words to have my needs met to say the right thing in conversation and start sticking up for myself again but I do feel weak I know Ill feel stronger that’s the plus is that I know where I’m at now it can only get better.

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[Radcliff]

This is a very supportive community.  We're sorry for your pain but are glad you're here.  Can you tell us more about your situation?  Are you communicating with him?  Are you receiving therapy or psychiatric care to support you? 

RC

[RolandOfEld]

Hi freedomforreal and joining Radcliff in welcoming you. Please do share more about your situation and more details about his behavior. How long have you been in this relationship?

Sending you strength,
RolandOfEld