What have you done well lately?

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Being with a pwBPD probably means we feel like failures a lot of times, or at least we're always told we haven't done enough or well enough.  So I thought why don't we post one thing that we have done well lately?  Let me start:

uBPDh was suddenly angry last night, was it at me?  Or something else?  I'm not sure.  Anyway, just by suggesting that the room is hot and the baby probably doesn't need blankets, he was slamming doors, then pointing at me aggressively and saying I have a bad attitude.  Also threw my phone on the bed.  But I held up, didn't JADE at all, didn't really get into any argument (or conversation) with him, focused on my own breathing instead.  He later on went into another room and didn't bother me again, then this morning he seemed to be in a better mood.

So all in all, I think I handled it rather well, and although it sucks big time to have somebody making accusations at me, at least I didn't take part in the absurdity.

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Being with a pwBPD probably means we feel like failures a lot of times, or at least we're always told we haven't done enough or well enough.  So I thought why don't we post one thing that we have done well lately?  Let me start:

uBPDh was suddenly angry last night, was it at me?  Or something else?  I'm not sure.  Anyway, just by suggesting that the room is hot and the baby probably doesn't need blankets, he was slamming doors, then pointing at me aggressively and saying I have a bad attitude.  Also threw my phone on the bed.  But I held up, didn't JADE at all, didn't really get into any argument (or conversation) with him, focused on my own breathing instead.  He later on went into another room and didn't bother me again, then this morning he seemed to be in a better mood.

So all in all, I think I handled it rather well, and although it sucks big time to have somebody making accusations at me, at least I didn't take part in the absurdity.

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[hope2727]

Well done for keeping your cool. I know how hard it can be. This season is stressful and things are bound to crop up that provoke reactions. Good for you for holding your self control.