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Panda39
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« on: January 02, 2019, 09:22:22 PM »
Hi all,

Today my total time logged on to this site hit 100 days and I think this is were I stop.  It has been a blessing in so many ways to have found the BPD Family!

I was a toxic angry Panda when I first arrived here and now I just roll around, have fun and eat bamboo.  I want to thank everyone past and present that supported me, shared information, shared tools, moved me along my journey and just listened.

I have a good understanding of what I can expect in terms of my SO's uBPDxw, I have good insight into what my SO's daughters might be feeling or needing, and I even have a better understanding of the relationship I have with my own mother and of myself.

I need to focus my energy back on me and taking care of me.  I'm entering into a 9 month wellness program that will need my focus and energy so that is where I am headed next.  I will check in periodically but I expect it to be here much less frequently than I have been.

I'm wishing you all radical acceptance, self love, and continued progress on your journeys.

Thank you   Welcome new member (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2019, 10:12:53 PM »
Panda,
I wish you the best in your journeys and many thanks for your wisdom and insight. Many blessings for your self care.   

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« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2019, 10:14:46 PM »
I'll miss you.  You are a great asset here, reaching out to others, helping so many all over the boards.   
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« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2019, 11:59:21 PM »
I will miss you, Panda. Our journeys were similar, having SOs with the uBPD exes. Your experiences with your SO's children were significantly similar. I too have travelled the anger-to-acceptance-to-health journey.

I wish you well.
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« Reply #4 on: January 03, 2019, 01:20:17 AM »
I will miss you. Thanks for reaching out to so many of us here. Take good care of you, Panda.

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« Reply #5 on: January 03, 2019, 03:45:53 AM »
Hey Panada,

It's been an absolute pleasure to share the same forum as you. You are indeed smarter than the average bear (Boo Boo), and have a real talent for helping folk on these boards. You will be sorely missed. Shame Pandas are so rare. Why is it they only eat a certain type of bamboo ?  Take care.   
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« Reply #6 on: January 03, 2019, 06:22:13 AM »
Panda- thank you for all your contributions and I wish you the best !
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« Reply #7 on: January 03, 2019, 06:52:02 AM »
Quote from: Panda39 on January 02, 2019, 09:22:22 PM
I was a toxic angry Panda when I first arrived here and now I just roll around, have fun and eat bamboo.

Yes look at you now:




I want to thank you for all you've done for the bpdfamily community. You've responded to and guided many members on here. You're an important and valued part of this community, you've contributed your panda all which I very much appreciate  It has been awesome witnessing your growth, warmth, humor and empathy and how you've been there for your SO's daughters

Enjoy the wellness program!

The Board Parrot salutes you Panda and thanks you for your service  
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« Reply #8 on: January 03, 2019, 09:46:01 AM »
Panda, I am so thankful for everything you have shared with me on the boards.  I remember you saying once long ago that you wanted to scoop up little Harri and give her a hug and as weird as it is to say, I felt that hug.  I have witnessed you do the very same to so many others here, sharing your story, what you have learned in your special way and it has been wonderful.

I shall miss you but I am so very happy you are moving on to better things.

You are fabulous!   
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« Reply #9 on: January 03, 2019, 01:27:16 PM »
Thank you for all your contributions. You are being a good role model by putting your own self care first. We are delighted to have you contribute when you would like to as you have lots of compassion and experience.
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« Reply #10 on: January 03, 2019, 05:54:26 PM »
Panda

I just want to say that I have read lots of your posts and many of the wise words that you have posted have helped me lots, so I want to thank you for that, and for just being here.

I wish you all the best 

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« Reply #11 on: January 03, 2019, 09:00:43 PM »
Panda39, I’m glad that I was here when you were. You were a good mentor. I hope you’ll visit here and there. Take good care.
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« Reply #12 on: January 03, 2019, 09:37:27 PM »
I wish you the very best in your future journey. Thank you for being so helpful to the many members you have supported over the years.
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« Reply #13 on: January 04, 2019, 10:13:36 AM »
Thank you for your wisdom, Panda, and for sharing part of the journey with us 
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« Reply #14 on: January 05, 2019, 06:04:44 AM »
One more thing Panda before you go... .with great pride and joy I can tell you that you've been awarded The Community Medal of Honor with special Board Animal distinction:



 
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« Reply #15 on: January 05, 2019, 09:01:05 PM »
I hope that your shoes will be filled.
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« Reply #16 on: January 05, 2019, 11:36:17 PM »
JNChell... .that can't be done... .  No one can replace Panda.  But I can be thankful for the love, support, friendship, kindness and wisdom she has shared with me and so many others here.
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« Reply #17 on: January 05, 2019, 11:57:59 PM »
Right on, Harri. I loved how pragmatic she was. She used pragmatism in ways like I’ve never seen. She’s good at it. Skip’s video cracked me up. I’ll be happy when she chimes in from time to time.
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« Reply #18 on: January 06, 2019, 02:13:27 AM »
You're such a cute beagle in Panda's clothing Harri
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« Reply #19 on: January 06, 2019, 02:22:58 AM »
Thanks Parrot... .but sadly I am not even close to being like Panda... . 
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« Reply #20 on: January 06, 2019, 02:32:49 AM »
Quote from: Harri on January 06, 2019, 02:22:58 AM
Thanks Parrot... .but sadly I am not even close to being like Panda... . 

You sure about that?



 
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« Reply #21 on: January 06, 2019, 02:41:21 AM »
Hilarious!

Too bad I can't find a panda parrot... .
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« Reply #22 on: January 06, 2019, 10:02:49 AM »
Wishing you the best!
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« Reply #23 on: January 07, 2019, 07:39:30 PM »
Oh Panda,

I shall miss you! Greatly! You have been an incredible part of the PSI team, and before that the Coping and Healing Team. It's always been my wonderful pleasure to serve alongside of you in supporting our members and the hurting souls that come seeking comfort. You are a cheerleader and an encourager. I have been able to see you heal and grow too, and that has been such a transformation to behold.

Lots of hugs and well wishes for your next healthy journey! 

 
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« Reply #24 on: January 09, 2019, 01:22:17 AM »
Panda,

Thank you for helping so many by sharing your uniqueness, insights and empathy.

Wishing you a balanced, bamboo-filled Panda life.

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« Reply #25 on: January 09, 2019, 01:48:45 PM »
Thank you for your service to bpdfamily, panda39    
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"You ask 'How to manifest a miracle?'... .
The Parrot's answer:
'By believing in the possibility of miracles happening and working very hard to make that possibility a reality'.
To quote our favorite panda (panda39): "You gotta keep on truckin'!" "



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« Reply #26 on: January 09, 2019, 04:32:54 PM »
Hello Panda  Welcome new member (click to insert in post)

Also a big thank you from me ... your words and kindness have been very valuable to me.

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