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« on: February 02, 2019, 07:42:43 PM »
Hi bpdfamily  Welcome new member (click to insert in post)

As an adult child of NPD/BPD parents who did not give me permission to exist, I am aware of the importance of going within and re-setting permissions.

I understand awareness is key to my recovery from c-ptsd, as I can only go as fast as the programming I am aware of.

A good question for me to ask myself is - what do I need to give myself permission for today?

Today I give myself permission to slow down.

What do YOU give yourself permission for today? 
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« Reply #1 on: February 02, 2019, 08:52:37 PM »
I am giving myself permission to examine and reject the distortions I was taught about me.

Freespirit!   This is a great idea for a thread!  Thank you.

Slowing down is hard, but so necessary and worth it.  Don't forget that you have us here to lean on.   

I like this:  re-setting permissions.   
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« Reply #2 on: February 02, 2019, 09:49:31 PM »
Go see a matinee (Glass, it was ok). Only do dishes and sweep the floor at home,  cycle some laundry but not fold. Chill, despite there being more housework. No kids this weekend. I deserve a Saturday to relax.  Folding can wait for tomorrow, in addition to working on D6's room to get it ready for a bedroom set so she stops sleeping with either me or her brother. Defer taxes also, though I've got all of the statements except for one.
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« Reply #3 on: February 03, 2019, 02:45:18 PM »
To let things just BE today.
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« Reply #4 on: February 04, 2019, 07:19:13 AM »
Today I give myself permission to be really sad and grieve my losses.
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« Reply #5 on: February 04, 2019, 03:07:35 PM »
 freespirit

It is so hard to sit with that. 
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« Reply #6 on: February 06, 2019, 07:32:26 PM »
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It is so hard to sit with that. 

Thank you for holding space for me beautiful lady, it really helped reading your message. 
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« Reply #7 on: February 06, 2019, 08:18:47 PM »
You're welcome.

How are you doing?
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« Reply #8 on: February 07, 2019, 06:12:41 PM »
Quote from: Harri on February 06, 2019, 08:18:47 PM
You're welcome.

How are you doing?

Looking good and feeling fine today Harri   I think the trick is completely giving ourselves to the process, which helps us clear things more quickly and efficiently, then just remembering gratitude and having fun, even if that just means putting on some music and dancing in the kitchen, like me tonight   
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« Reply #9 on: February 08, 2019, 12:28:32 AM »
Quote from: freespirit on February 07, 2019, 06:12:41 PM
... .even if that just means putting on some music and dancing in the kitchen, like me tonight   



You got some cosmic moves!
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« Reply #10 on: February 08, 2019, 12:34:53 PM »
Quote from: Kwamina on February 08, 2019, 12:28:32 AM


You got some cosmic moves!

I see the picture of me dancing in the kitchen last night made it onto the internet, it was a bit of a wild night!   

Do you know these guys? 

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« Reply #11 on: February 08, 2019, 05:43:57 PM »
That are my two cousins: WIld Thing and Big Bird

Today I give myself permission to be me... .myself and I
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« Reply #12 on: February 09, 2019, 09:51:10 AM »
Today, I give myself permission to risk losing everything to remain true to myself and my recovery, even if that means standing alone. 

Thank you for being playful Parrot,   I have actually had that meme for weeks, and have been waiting on the perfect time to use it in a thread   
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