The Stalking Continues...

[Pina colada]

Hi.  I haven't been here in a while.  I have been living life.  Working.  Hanging with friends.  My BF.  Working toward becoming a yogi (I am almost there)!  I was on one of mystical media accounts, and BOOM, there is my BPD/NPD sister following me...Does it ever end?

[Harri]

Does it ever end?

Apparently not for your sister.   

How would you describe this for you?  A mild annoyance?  A huge violation?  Something in between?

[No-One]

Perhaps you need to take steps to anonymize yourself.  If you use "Pina Colada" everywhere you go, you make yourself easy to follow.  If your sister hears about a great new website you are posting on, then she is likely to follow.

Since she wants to follow you, you may need to put yourself in the mindset of a policeman, trying to catch an online perpetrator.  They are very successful at disguising their online identity.  

For example, let's say I want to join multiple forums that discuss quilting, but I don't want sister to follow me or know who I am.  So, I don't use a consistent online ID, or anything that someone may know that I'd likely use.  Also, I'd be careful about what I'd share.  You can talk about a whole lot of quilting, but still hold other things confidential.

Just wondering if you are making yourself too easy to follow.  I know that some people have a bit of "pride" in consistently using a given online ID.  They can get known and gain a reputation in a given areas (i.e. wow!  Pina Colada is a great quilter, she posts on 2 other websites)

Just provoking some thought.  Maybe I'm assuming too much, and she is just there (using her consistent ID), but not discovering you yet?

[Pina colada]

Harri, it bothered me only because when I saw a new person following me that I did not know, I checked her profile AND she was following about 8 people: myself, my daughter, and two forums I follow.  It is Pinterest.  Good news is I blocked her.  There is nothing on my boards that I care if she sees, just trying to put this whole thing behind me. 
No-One, hi.  Nice to meet you and some great food for thought.  I am on FB, IG and Pinterest.  She is block on FB and on IG I would have to accept her invitation to follow me which I would not.  I do know in the future, if I go on a chat room I would use a "generic" name.  She is aware of my presence here and has made accounts at times but that is on her.  I really have not been here much since March.  I have more freedom in the summers so here I am. 
I really hoped she got over her obsession with me but I can not control her.  I am just trying to live my life and although it's sad I cannot have a relationship with her, I have accepted it and it is okay...