Looking to understand

[Depression = 72% of members]

So I am in counseling by the request of my wife and am hearing from the counselor that this might be BPD in my wife.  I am now reading some books and am looking for stories to see if this all makes sense.  I can already see some connections and stories from the book that seems familiar.  I am hearing that I have the power for how I feel and act and that I have 50% responsibility in this relationship.  I have not felt like that for the last 15 of our 20 years of marriage.  Just looking for a community that can help me understand this better and a place to get support.  Thanks, everyone in advance, New to BPD.

[jeffcpr]

So I am in counseling by the request of my wife and am hearing from the counselor that this might be BPD in my wife.  I am now reading some books and am looking for stories to see if this all makes sense.  I can already see some connections and stories from the book that seems familiar.  I am hearing that I have the power for how I feel and act and that I have 50% responsibility in this relationship.  I have not felt like that for the last 15 of our 20 years of marriage.  Just looking for a community that can help me understand this better and a place to get support.  Thanks, everyone in advance, New to BPD.

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