Not sure what to do

[Carguy]

So my ex BPD and I have been in an on and off relationship for the last four years. Several months ago she told me she wanted to see where things went with some other guy and after 2 months of not talking we started talking again.

It turns out it did not work with this other guy and we were supposed to just be friends. It started becoming more and then she started pushing me away again. She told me we were just friends and the pushing got worse.

A few weeks ago I started talking to another girl that knew me from years ago and we hit it off. The next day I asked my ex BPD where we were and she said we were just friends. I asked her if that meant we were dating other people and after a long pause she told me to go live my life. I think by the pause that she really didn't want me to but I have to take her words at face value. I asked her if there was any future for us and she said she did not know.

So I continue talking to this girl and at Thanksgiving she invited my son and I to have Thanksgiving dinner with her mother at a restaurant. We went and when I was walking across the parking lot I seen my ex BPD's vehicle. I told the new girl and she said we could go somewhere else and I told her no, it was fine.

While waiting to be seated in the restaurant my ex and her children walked out and seen me and said about eating out instead of cooking "You guys decided to cheat to huh?" and I said yeah. Then she walked out.

The next day I went to Walmart where she works to get some lunch and stop by her Department to say hi and she was quite sharp and her responses to me. I asked her if she wanted me to leave her alone and she said that would probably be best. I asked her if she was upset about the day before and she said she was just surprised. I asked her if she was okay and she got angry and told me she did not want to talk about it. So I left.

Several days later I text her and ask if we could talk sometime. She responded and said it would have to be after the 13th. I told her to let me know when she figured out a time.

Tonight I went into Walmart to get something and I walked past her and she was talking to another guy. I took a few steps back and said Hey to her and waved and she just said hey back. I paid for my stuff and went outside and put it in the car and then went back in.

The new guy was following her from aisle to aisle so it must be her new interest. I walked over and told him sorry to interrupt and ask her if it would be okay for my son and I to move her truck that is on my property because it's in the way of where I want to pull in and out. I've asked her a few times in the past and she hasn't been able to do it yet.

She had it parked here in the past and last spring moved it off my property. The friends place that she moved it to was selling their business so I let her move it back here so she had a place to put it since she lives in an apartment and can only Park her daily vehicle there.

In the past when she was angry with me and not talking to me and we were apart I would ask her about moving it because it was in the way then too and she kept pushing it back further of when she could do it.

When I asked her about talking I wanted to talk to her about us and tell her that I still cared about her and that I wanted to still be her friend.

Tonight just like a couple of times I've tried to talk to her for a minute out of work she started getting angry at me and telling me she would move it after the 13th.

I told her okay I would wait until then and slinked away like a whipped puppy with my tail between my legs.

Walking out of the store and driving home I was becoming more angry with her and myself for not standing up for myself. This is happened a lot in the past with her too. I feel like this is my property and I am doing her a favor and yet she is being controlling and telling me when she'll move her vehicle and treating me like she's doing me a favor.

I want to be decent but I feel like I need to just tell her either she moves it or I will load it back up and take it to her apartment to let her worry about it. I feel like she's trying to walk on me.

Also with this other girl, I am having a hard time moving forward because my heart is still wrapped up with my ex BPD. This new girl seems incredible but my heart still hurts because for all these years I wanted it to work between us and I got hurt a lot.

I guess a big thing is my heart is afraid of losing my ex BPD and yet my mind knows that it likely would not work and we would just constantly be back to this spot where we have been repeatedly in the past.

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