I'm sorry, commongarden. The silence, the distance, the rejection (whether real or perceived) -- so painful to deal with.
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My advice? Post and read here. Fill up your knowledge bank on BPD so if/when he comes back, you are well-equipped to deal with anything.
But the main thing? Focus on you. Spend time with friends and family. Engage in hobbies. Do things you really enjoy that "fill your cup." Self-care is key, especially at times like this.
And you're right not to reach out. It's best to let him self-soothe and give him the space he wants and needs.
Hang in there!
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