Transition

[Momneedshelp33]

My daughter is living with my mother because I kicked her out at 16. Now 6 years later with a trade education we thought she was set. Job, car, place to live. She has since lost all that and lives with my mom again. My mother is elderly and we don't know what to do. She won't take meds, go to therapy, clean, or anything except sleep eat and go hang out with friends with total disregard to my mom's health. I don't know what to do.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi and welcome to our online community,
 It is very frustrating for your daughter to have commandeered your mother's home pretty much to the point where she is running the show.  Or rather, her illness is.   
As you get started here please  take a look at the tools and lessons in the upper side  of this board. It is unfortunate we can't change our grown BPD's behavior, but all we  can do is change our own behavior and how we respond to them. The resources on this website can help with that. 

Do you fear for your mother's safety- is your daughter violent towards her?