projection/self sabotage.

[rjn_88]

Here is my thing: I know that there is an element of projecting your issues onto someone else in every relationship, whether with friends, family or a significant other. My wife has BPD and I am looking for validation in the fact that sometimes she will be projecting her self doubt and issues around things like money so blatantly and not notice. The lack of awareness really concerns me because it is so clear to me as the partner without BPD and she doesn't notice and gets more upset with me. It's like she's fighting with her self and her insecurities towards me and it is really stressful and makes me doubt myself. UGH. Anyone else have this in their relationship?

Thanks. RJN.

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how does this scenario typically go, in terms of the back and forth?