It’s such a relief knowing that I’m not alone, although I wouldn’t wish this on anyone so it’s bitter sweet!
I haven’t & won’t fix it for him & quite honestly at this stage, I don’t know how it can be. He can be so spiteful & hurtful and this was directed at my Mum so it’s going to take a lot of take it back.
I probably go through every emotion

Ive changed how I react over the years which helps but it doesn’t always work, for me or him. I used to get very upset, cry, defend everything & try to do or say what he wanted.
I try not to engage at all now, only responding if I have to. Generally we separate into different parts of the house & will communicate but message which in some ways is easier!
I guess it upsets me more to think that it is just normal now & im used to it, even though I’m not but I hate that our child is growing up in it too & that’s what I’m struggling with the most at the moment.
As my name suggests, I love to cross stitch, it’s my release, my down time & I love it. I make sure I do some every night & have just spent the last few hours doing that which helps.