Does anyone else struggle with this?
After nearly a year of reneging on a three year proposal for which I had to obtain special permission from the highest court in our country-- and mind you my head is on the chopping block for even being with a gringo w/o marriage-- my BP comes back to me with a "heartfelt" love-letter promising devotion and love to me "even if unrequited". I swear to God, I had to do a double-take. If I did not know better I would have thought it was Ryan Gosling from the Notebook
Except it's not Ryan Gosling from the Notebook. Those things really did happen.
He really did want to continue having sex and playing house without giving me a modicum of commitment IN THE MIDDLE OF A PLACE I COULD BE FLOGGED FOR THAT. Not only that, he'd also double-down on the fact that reneging was "the right thing to do," and then topped it off towards the end with an infidelity cherry on the dating apps because "you made me feel so lonely in this relationship with your society and your religion"...
Ladies, you hear? Patriarchy's abuse of religion and even misogyny is your fault and if your man cheats on you "because of them," it's also your fault too for not drawing a clearer line in the sand. Why has my BP not gone to the Taliban and the FLDS to tell those women too? Seems like they could use him over there
Anyway, not only is he playing Ryan Gosling with amnesia now. He's also dragging poor kiddies into this. Telling me in his Ryan Gosling love-letters about all the people who have entrusted him with their children in the role of Godfather. Telling me how he misses my nephews and nieces.
Prince Charming. Good Guy BP. All I could think was #SavetheChildren
Yes, you are a good guy. But you f-cked up. Own it and move on.
Why do they do this?
